In a brief section early in the book, Kook, by Peter Heller, he ponders whether his new found interest in surfing in his late-40s was a form of mid-life crisis. As he thinks about it he mentions the difference between a mid-life crisis that looks backward wishing and hoping for things lost or never experienced or looking forward to new experiences. He decided that
Looking Forward = braveI thought that is a good ending to what I wrote above back at the end of my first Duathlon.
Looking Backward = pathetic.
To look forward needs to be about growth and growing older with grace.