Alcohol is Only an Excuse

I'm not quite sure it is "only" an excuse, but the alcohol does not make it happen. The alcohol only oils the gears for lots of bad things to happen. Nor does alcohol take away responsibility. Don't believe the lies. In recovery you do the time for what you are responsible for. Don't believe they were made to do anything. It is a sad and scary cycle.

New Video Disputes Abusers Claim Alcohol Made Me Do It
Newswise April 17, 2009

Newswise - A new documentary shatters the myth that alcohol causes men to be violent. Four survivors of domestic violence willingly shared their experiences on camera in the hope that other women will not accept alcohol as an excuse or be less likely to seek help because of the dangerous illusion that, if the drinking stops, so will the abuse.

In reflecting on her three-year abusive marriage in the video, "Mary" concedes, "I always thought his drinking caused a lot of problems we had. I realize now alcohol was just a copout so he could do what he wanted and say things like, 'I'm sorry about last night; I was trashed.' I guess getting away from it and detaching completely from the situation was when I realized it wasn't just because he drank that he abused. There were periods in our marriage he didn't drink and I would still feel the same about how he treated me or the kids."

See the full article at: http://www.newswise.com/articles/view/551354/?sc=dwhn